5 Secrets of Speaking to Girls at London Nightclubs

"Your Dad must have been a criminal!"

"What?"

"Uuhh … I mean .. your father must have been a thief, because he stole you!"

"Bouncer!!"

"Wait! I was just trying to say that your Dad must have been a thief, because he stole the stars and put them in your eyes … Nooooooooo! Let me back in!"

Sound familiar? If it does, you are probably familiar with that horrible burning sensation at the back of your eyes, the pounding heart and the sweaty armpits that come along with trying to talk to girls at nightclubs in London. It can be hard talking to strangers at anytime, let alone when the music is thumping and your mates are busy making fun of you. So today we check out some top tips for talking to girls while clubbing in London. A couple of successes and you'll find it isn’t as hard as you think…

1. Know the most ladies are open to the idea of getting together … but don't act like that
   According to surveys, around two-thirds of the girls that go to nightclubs are single and actively looking for a man. Know that, and use it as a confidence boost to help you go talk to the girls. But never, ever act as though you are going to get together when you first start talking. Don't mention it, don't leer at her boobs … just try talking to her first and seeing if you click. That's what she's expecting!
2. Know who wants a drink bought for them
   Watch a girl and see who's already getting her drinks (without being creepy). If every man and his dog at the nightclub in London is already buying a girl drinks, you'll stand out more by asking her to dance, or just having a conversation.
3. Whatever you'd say to your mates, say to the girls
   Okay … perhaps 'some of the things you’d say to your mates' would be a better idea! If you were going to tell them how funny the bartender's accent was, tell her. If you were going to comment on how cold it is in the club, tell her. You'll sound much more natural.
4. Be an active listener
   When she talks, look into her eyes or face, nod at the appropriate times, and answer in a way that encourages her to go on. You don't actually have to do much talking if you learn this skill!
5. Ask open ended questions
   Yes/no questions can make a conversation feel really stilted and awkward. Ask open ended questions that can’t be answered with a yes or no when talking to girls at London nightclubs.