For many of us, from the well-practiced single ladies to the newly unattached, think first of bars and clubs when we think of trying to find a new partner - a new person to connect with. It's a ritual all over the world - relationship seekers get dolled up, practice their best hair-flicks and coquettish stares, grab a couple of mates and let alcohol lubricate their interactions with the opposite sex. But is this a smart way to find a real, lasting relationship? The answer is a bit more complicated than many of us realize … today we are discussion whether relationships born while clubbing in London have any chance of success.
Just party people?
There's a general perception out there that the type of people that go to London nightclubs are just party people - a little loose, a bit trashy, and that both the guys and the girls are not really people that you'd take home to meet your Mum. But think again, before you mentally indulge this stereotype. You've been out to clubs, haven’t you? Is your Mum proud of you? Clubbing is generally just one of the things that many people find enjoyable. Don't judge a book by its cover!
The conversation factor…
Much of human communication is non-verbal - and for that sort of communication, it doesn’t matter at all that the music is up too loud for you to even hear yourself shouting! To know whether you have the basis of a real relationship, though, the nightclub can be a bit self-defeating. You have only animal instincts to go on, none of the value of actually hearing about someone's views and thoughts. The beauty that you see is only on the outside, remember!
Confidence boosters
However, especially if you've just come out of a long term relationship, nightclubs in London can be a great way to ease yourself into contact with the opposite sex again. You don't have to explain yourself or talk too much - you can just chat without pressure and have a good time. And that can be a vital first step in actually finding a real relationship!
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